How People Pleasing Thrives in South Asian Communities
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How People Pleasing Thrives in South Asian Communities

People Pleasing behavior thrives in South Asian communities because of our underlying collectivist culture and the impact of colonialism where we prioritize and emphasize everyone over ourselves as individuals and have an inferiority complex from colonial trauma respectively. These manifest in our cultural norms which add fuel to this intergenerational trauma fire. Cultural norms like fighting over the check at restaurants, giving up your bed for your guest, and making major life decisions based on what parents want to name a few.

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10 Tips to Finally Stop People Pleasing
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10 Tips to Finally Stop People Pleasing

Is being a people pleaser hurting you or helping you? Let’s take a look at this latest buzz words that’s all over IG and TikTok and let’s talk about what is it, where does it come from, what are the 10 signs of a people pleaser, and 10 tips on how to stop people pleasing.

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The Bicultural Experience
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The Bicultural Experience

I am a bilingual First-Generation Indian-American (partially practicing) Hindu woman. I, like a lot of your bi-cultural folk, am neither Indian nor American. I don’t belong to one group. I’ve been rejected by Indians for being too American in my accent, personality, preferences, lifestyle etc. I’ve been rejected by American’s as too Indian in the other aspects of my personality, preferences, and lifestyle etc.

Not having a larger group to anchor ourselves to can make us feel lonely and untethered. We all have a need for belongingness. But where do we belong if both part’s of our identities reject us as not being like them enough?

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